I know this has been sitting in the box 5ever, but I needed some time to do some readin’ and these days organizing my thoughts can take some time. #BrainTraumaProblems
Basically, Sea Duke had no beef with her initially; if anything he understood her position as he was an “outsider” at first as well. His frustration lied mostly with Charles, due to Charles’ initial indecisiveness and inaction regarding marriage. Sir did try to get both of them to work through their issues (writing to Diana and talking with Charles), but obviously not much came from his efforts.
When things got ugly though, Sea Duke’s opinion of her soured, though not to the extent as it did with Fergie. He was mad af with Diana manipulating the media like she did and bringing discredit upon the monarchy. His perspective changed to “If she wants out, she can stay out.” So, he tried, shit still fell apart, and everything was terrible, and he’d just about had enough of that nonsense. Kind of a “you can’t have your cake and eat it too” thing.
Sea Duke also was quite tired of her brother’s shit regarding wtf his own grandBAMFlets were to do at her funeral, quite literally telling him to “fuck off” on more than one occasion, because duh, trauma and tbh if anybody gets that it’s Sir. At that point his primary concern was William and Harry’s overall wellbeing and he gave zero fucks about what Spencer (IDK his first name) wanted.