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“This is my opinion, and given that I do not claim it to be fact, I would really appreciate it if I was not hit with a series of abusive messages in support of Meghan Markle.

I do not believe that Meghan Markle is genuine person, and I think that the British people sense that. It is not the case (as some people claim below) that Meghan is well liked in the United Kingdom, and I believe that this marriage is ultimately going to end in disaster.

Although I am not permitted by the board that governs my profession (I am a psychiatrist) to draw conclusions about people who are not my patients, and who I have not been seeing for a period of time, I am permitted to offer an opinion. This is so long as the opinion is not made in the context of my work. So, what I am about to write is my personal opinion, and is in no way meant to be a professional diagnosis of Meghan Markle. I would never diagnose anyone who was not my patient, and even then, they would have to have been my patient for some time.

My opinion is that Meghan Markle suffers from a Narcissistic Personality Disorder, with a number of Borderline traits. This does not make her a bad person, but it does mean that something very early on in her life, made her feel that she was insignificant unless she is the centre of attention. From the very start, Meghan enabled a grossly inflated view of who she is to be spattered all over the media.

One of many examples was the notion that she is highly educated. It is true that Meghan attention Northwestern University, which is a highly respected US university. However, Meghan possesses a bachelor degree, and the fact that she majored in international relations and theatre studies makes no difference. Yes, she must be intelligent to have made it into this university, but she is an undergraduate. Her degree is no doubt an achievement, but she is nowhere near as educated as Kate Middleton, who possesses a postgraduate masters degree from an equally respected UK university.

Meghan’s uncle helped her to gain an entry level job in what could have ultimately become a career as an ambassador, but Meghan failed the entry test. There’s no shame in that, because it is an exceptionally difficult test and a vast number of highly intelligent people fail this test every year. However, what is unusual is that she never refers to Kate’s education when the four of them (Harry, William, Kate and herself) are being interviewed. Nor did she invite this uncle (who must have pulled an enormous number of strings to get Methan this job) to her wedding. The lack of acknowledgement of others is typical in people who suffer from a Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

I understand that Thomas Markle senior has made a number of mistakes. He should not have sold photos of himself to the press, but he did apologise. He is clearly an articulate, intelligent and gentle man; at least this is my summation of him from the interviews I have watched. He was an Emmy award winning lighting designer, which means he must have been exceptionally talented. However, like many previously successful people, he has fallen upon hard times and declared himself bankrupt. Whatever the truth about his health is, it is not difficult to see that he is in bad health. He lives in Mexico, in what has been described as less than desirable surroundings.

If Thomas Markle senior had abused Meghan Markle as a child- either emotionally, verbally and especially sexually (because these are the wounds that are impossible to heal), I would understand Meghan’s current reaction (or non-reaction) to her father. But it is fairly clear that far from being abusive, Thomas was an adoring, supportive and gentle father. Meghan mentions him as her major support in life in a number of speeches she made prior to knowing Harry. In particular, she spoke about her wonderful father in her feminist address to the UN.

Given all of the above, I believe that only a person with an antisocial personality disorder, or a narcissistic personality disorder could exist as a Duchess with the now extraordinary access she has to money, and simultaneous know that their own, ever-loving father was living a lifestyle that is a few runs up from poverty. Meghan does not have an antisocial personality disorder (previously and popular referred to as a psychopath or sociopath). These people lack any empathy for others and derive pleasure from inflicting pain on people – pain that they find amusing and tantalising. A person with a narcissistic personality disorder does not enjoy inflicting pain on others, and therefore rarely (if ever) commits crimes of violence. That is, unless they have a large number of antisocial personality traits.

However, it is true that people with Narcissistic Personality Disorders do not experience empathy for others in the same way that most of the population does. They don’t intend to inflict emotional pain on others, but if they discover that they have, they don’t really care. That’s the major difference.

Meghan does not want to hurt her father. However, I think people are missing are the reasons that Meghan has cut her father out of her life. Sure, she’s angry that he has spoken to the press, but if she had not cut off all contact with him, he would not have had any need to go to the press. He explained (quite genuinely) that the only reason he spoke to the press was that he literally had no other way of communicating with his daughter.

The real reason that Meghan has cut her father out of her life is because he no longer fits in with the way she identifies herself. If he were in the prime of his life and winning Emmy awards for his lighting, Meghan would accept him into her fold with open arms. However, as a now bankrupt, poor, sick old man, he does not match Meghan’s view of herself, and she sees him as an embarrassment.

As for her mother, I do think this is the one and only genuine family relationship Meghan has. However, this is also because Doria Raglan does what Meghan wants. At least, this is my opinion. The dominant person in the relationship is Meghan, and like most mothers, Doria adores her child, as is the case with the overwhelming number of mothers. However, I have a hunch that, as a child, Doria found it very difficult to set boundaries for Meghan, who essentially did what she wanted and when she wanted. I am not suggesting that Doria was a bad mother (I don’t believe in the concept of “bad” mothers), but it is terribly difficult to parent a child with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The thing that Doria had in her favour, was the fact that Meghan was an extremely ambitious child. She was someone who, right from a very early age, was determined to live a life where she was the centre of attention. This made Meghan a disciplined, self-determined child, who, for the most part, stayed out of trouble. Children with this personality disorder either go Meghan’s way (the path of ruthless ambition) or become the centre of attention by engaging in illegal and rebellious acts.

If Meghan were genuinely proud of her biracial background, she would have invited at least some of her black relatives to her wedding. She has black nieces and nephews, cousins and aunts and uncles. Where were they? Again, they do not fit in with her current view of herself, and so they were not invited. The same goes for her half brother and sister. Okay, they have done a lot of dubious things, but it is simple protocol to invite one’s half brother and half sister to one’s wedding. It really doesn’t matter how long it’s been since you’ve seen them. They are people who share half of your DNA. Again, if they had committed horrendous crimes against Meghan, I would understand the lack of an invitation. But, all the talk that her half siblings have engaged in with the press come from a deep sense of hurt over the fact that they were not included in the wedding invitations. If Meghan had done what most “normal” people would do, and invited her half brother and sister to her very large wedding, I don’t believe that Thomas Markle junior or Samantha would have spoken to the press in the way that they have.

I just look at Meghan and see a deeply disturbed personality, who cannot cope with others getting attention or praise. I watched her face in the interview that she did with Harry, William and Kate and there are times when she looks at Kate as if she wants to kill her. She doesn’t want to kill her. It is just simply incredibly painful for Meghan to see someone else getting attention.

So my reasoning is this: The British people sense that there is something not quite right about Meghan, and I think they are right. Yes, she is deeply infatuated with Harry, but only because he is deeply infatuated with her. He is a prince who is all over her – How could she not adore such a person? And, clearly, there is a lot of genuine sexual chemistry between them. However, when this intense period of infatuation wears off (as it does in all relationships), I do not believe that this marriage will be able to become one of true love. I believe that Meghan is going to truly hurt Harry, and that she is going to turn on the royal family. It will take a while, but once she is no longer the flavour of the month, she won’t be able to cope with the next star. No one walks around with a smile on their face all the time. No one who is not pathologically disturbed. Meghan’s smile is hiding a myriad of other feelings- jealousy, greed, the need to always be the centre of attention, insecurity etc…

The above is my opinion, and I would love to be wrong. I would love this marriage to last, but I do not believe it will. Diana also had a lot of personality problems, but the major difference is that Diana’s compassion for others was real. People sensed that, which is why there was such an outpouring of grief when she died. I think people are going to sense, more and more as time goes on, that Meghan’s compassion is not genuine, but a means to garner attention and be viewed in a similar way to Diana.”